Sex and relationships
Sexual performance anxiety
Sexual performance anxiety is a loop: worry about how things will go makes them harder to go well, which creates more worry. It is common at every age, and it is often about stress, pressure and attention, though physical causes and medicines can play a part. Small changes help, such as talking before bed and slowing down. These guides are general information and have not had an outside expert review yet. Related: premature ejaculation exercises and delayed ejaculation.
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Common questions
Is performance anxiety common?
Yes. Most people notice it at some point, especially during stress, a new partner or after one bad experience. This is general information, not medical advice.
What can I try on my own?
Slow breathing, focusing on touch instead of on results, and taking pressure off with other kinds of intimacy are common first steps. Cutting back on alcohol before sex helps some people.
Should I tell my partner?
Most people feel relief once it is said kindly and plainly. The talking guides offer short opening lines you can borrow.
When should I see a doctor?
If erection trouble is new, persistent or comes with other symptoms, a doctor can check for physical causes, medicines and mood. A sex therapist can help with the worry loop. This is general information, not medical advice.