Sex and relationships
Low desire after baby
Low desire after a baby is one of the most common things new parents quietly worry about, and it is usually not a sign that something is wrong with you or your relationship. Broken sleep, healing and hormone shifts all play a part. Start small, with touch that has no goal and honest talk. These guides have not had an outside expert review yet. If sex hurts or your mood feels very low, please see a clinician.
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Common questions
Is low desire after a baby normal?
Yes, it is very common, and it often changes over months. Sleep loss, healing, feeding and stress all play a part, and desire does not follow one timetable. This is general information, not medical advice.
When can we have sex again?
Many providers mention around six weeks as a common checkpoint, but readiness is personal. Ask your provider at your postpartum visit and go at your own pace. This is general information, not medical advice.
How do we talk about it without a fight?
Choose a calm moment that is not in bed, start with what you miss or want rather than what is missing, and agree that no is always allowed. The scripts in the talking guide are written for this.
When should I get help?
Pain, bleeding, low mood, anxiety or feeling disconnected for weeks are good reasons to call your clinician. A sex therapist can also help couples. This is general information, not medical advice.